I can't say I know what, exactly, your circumstances are. And I'm rather confused about the particulars...

[what am societal stigma against out of wedlock births, can you eat it]

Still. My mother had her complications, but she was a far better person than this.

But the man you speak of seems just as vile as her consort.

[Her mother's husband. Not her father. The choice of words is quite deliberate here.]