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[dubiouslychthonic]

o)+ ALright, foLks, quick PSA before this has a chance to become an awkward issue, since I have friends around here and for some reason so does JaiLbreak:

o)+ TroLLs have a greater variety of romantic reLationships than humans usuaLLy do. Some of these are more or Less equivaLent to human romance - we caLL those ones red romance, generaLLy sPeaking - but we aLso have a couPLe of modeLs of bLack romance, which is founded PrimariLy in confLict and contention rather than more Positive emotions.

o)+ Kismessitude is normaL and heaLthy in my sPecies, and JaiL aPParentLy has a sense of adventure more usuaLLy associated with PeoPLe getting eggs Laid in their thoraxes. She seems to think she knows what she's getting into by continuing to needLe me. We're both aduLts and abLe to Look our for our own interests.

o)+ As such: it's ok to react to PubLic disPLays of contention with the same sort of miLd censure with which you'd treat equivaLent PubLic disPLays of affection. I wouLd request that you foLks not attemPt to arbitrate between us without exPress invitation. Doing so is imPoLite at best and tantamount to a ProPosition to a different romantic quadrant at worst.

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[founderinglight]

Well, I don't know what else you want me to do, Ardyn, and throwing a screaming fit at me instead of communicating that isn't going to help me.

I don't know what helps you. Other than 'stop entirely' which, to be frank? I am not going to let your traumas control my life, I have enough issues of my own doing that.

This is an entirely different conversation than him stepping on my traumas with the exclusive goal of hurting me, and you know it, you're just excusing it because you like him and hate me. And I asked you to step in in that instance because the only alternative was to descend into a spiral of increasing antagonism that I don't want. Your alternative here to screaming is... actually talking to either me or Heart, with something other than unfettered aggression.

In conclusion, you're just as hypocritical and also a git, and expecting me to move perfectly around your traumas like some kind of mind reader is beyond unfair. I love you but so help me if you don't learn to communicate I'm going to elbow you in the diaphragm.

[burninglight]

TRY 'DON'T FLIRT WITH SOMEONE YOU LITERALLY SAW ME HAVE INTEREST IN' WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU THAT YOU THINK THIS IS JUST AN OKAY THING TO DO?!

I WILL SHOUT AT YOU ALL I LIKE BECAUSE YOU'RE BEING A PRICK AND I FEEL THIS DOESN'T REQUIRE TELEPATHY TO REGISTER AS AN INCREDIBLY TERRIBLE THING TO DO ON YOUR PART

[founderinglight]

Because I do think of those things as entirely separate?

Ugh. Alright, I fucked up. Sorry.

[burninglight]

they're not

they're not remotely separate and i'm kind of shocked you need this pointed out to you

i'm not saying 'avoid every single person i like' but if you don't recognize that isn't the same as all of this i really don't know what to tell you.

[founderinglight]

Because I don't see 'we have an enjoyable time antagonizing each other' as anything near the kind of supportive relationship the two of you have.

I'll back off the flirtatious antagonism but I don't think we can stop driving each other up a wall.

[burninglight]

you

fuck it, never mind, if i try to define the distinction right this second i'll just get pissed off about it

fine, so long as you back down with the flirting.

[founderinglight]

Consider it to be done.