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[burninglight]

[After the fight with his brother had settled down, Ardyn went back to his room and shut the door; after an hour or so of pacing restlessly and accomplishing nothing, he settled on taking out his phone and making an ill-advised decision.]

[...Just as soon as he changed his username.]

Since there is likely no end in sight to 'this station needs more therapy than the multiverse can provide':

I know one can be furious with someone they care about and yet not detest them. Difficult, but not unthinkable. But is it possible to ever learn to stop hating someone, when that anger is justified yet supposedly built on the foundation of a misunderstanding?

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np np i was asleep

[burninglight]

It's possible we were both wrong, in vastly different ways.

It's not something I can forgive. Not now and likely not ever. But I'm tired of hating him and I'm just not sure how to get past it.

[press_start]

In my world, there was a method of therapy being tested that was creating happier memories to replace traumatic ones. I don't know enough to say it works, but… the idea is to find a new thing to care about that's not what happened between you. In a way, focusing on your hurt and anger… still gives them the power to hurt you even if they're not doing anything anymore.

You don't have to go to that person and say “I forgive you”. But you're more than what people have done to hurt you. If you can build a new life that doesn't care about that person or what he's done… you could be happier. That's what I think.

[burninglight]

Nothing personal, but that's the worst coping mechanism I can possibly imagine and I've had enough of altered memories for one lifetime.

I thought I did create a new life of sorts, built upon my old one as a foundation. But it seems I can't really escape this particular issue.

[press_start]

Ah, if you say so. I can't say I'm an expert in these things.

I don't think I know enough to be able to be useful, maybe you should explain the situation more to someone you can trust to help. Sorry. :(

But is it because that person is here with you?

[burninglight]

They are, and that's rather the problem. Kind of like a pressing issue I can't get away from for long enough to process or consider what to do.

[press_start]

Ah, I see how that can be a problem.

There's a room I go to a lot that I don't see many people go to, it's upstairs and I've got blankets there if you need to hide overnight. If you want. Or for something more secure you can, hmm

Be in my room for a while? Maybe. I'm not inside much since I'm upstairs. That person wouldn't know which room you were in, or how to get in.