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[cyclicalconcept]

[Its a small, quick post. It’s also not in her normal formatting. But it’s obvious who it it’s, to some people.

And not just because it has Kana’s user name on it, of course.]

What is hate, to you? How do you know that you hate someone? How do you reconcile that hate when it’s towards someone you care for?




I hope I make some sense. I’m not sure what I’m thinking right now.

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[dubiouslychthonic]

[If you focus past the translation effect to get the Alternian base text, you might notice that "hate" and "love" are very clearly forms of the same root word.]

o)+ ALright, weLL.

o)+ Hating someone is being invested in them because of your negative feeLings toward or about them.

o)+ As we figure it, you reaLLy can't hate someone without it being someone you care about. Even if it's not a cLose PersonaL reLationshiP, hate is founded in being invested in the other Person in a Lot of the same ways as Loving them. Who they are and what they're doing is imPortant to you. They infLuence how you think about the worLd around you.

o)+ If you didn't care, you just... wouLdn't care. Life's too fuLL of things that are hard and unPLeasant to sPend time fixating on PeoPLe who don't matter to you. I don't mean that in a "you're being siLLy and shouLd move on" way, I mean that in a "if you are thinking about someone, you're aLready invested" way.

o)+ Sometimes this means that you just reaLLy want them to stoP what they're doing, whatever it takes, and it resuLts in oPen confLict. Sometimes it means you want to Prove that you're better than them, and you grow because of it. Sometimes if you reaLize that you vaLued the Positive feeLings you aLready had toward the Person, more than you vaLue the idea of making them change, you need to steP back and do some souL-searching and decide whether the things that irritate you about them actuaLLy outweigh the things that endear them to you.

o)+ (And with troLLs sometimes hating someone deveLoPs into romantic and sexuaL attraction in the same way that aPProving of them can, but I'm given to understand that humans don't usuaLLy do bLack romance.)

[cyclicalconcept]

That makes sense.

There is someone like that. Back home. I guess you can say I’m very very invested in them whether I want to be or not?

[dubiouslychthonic]

o)+ That haPPens.

o)+ But then, sometimes Loving someone whether you want to or not haPPens, too.

[cyclicalconcept]

I can’t help but care for her. Even after everything. But she did something terrible. I feel empty. Unsure. Upset...angry. When I think of her.

But I also wonder if I’m no different from her too.

[dubiouslychthonic]

o)+ I'm sure I don't have the context to understand the situation, and I'm not incLined to Pry.

o)+ But it's ok to feeL negativeLy toward her.

o)+ And it's ok to use her as a reference for what you don't want to be, if that's how you feeL.

[cyclicalconcept]

It's really okay?




Yet I always feel like it's not right.

[dubiouslychthonic]

o)+ It's uP to you to sort out how you feeL, of course. And it's not wrong not to feeL that way, either.

o)+ But troLLs wouLd consider it normaL and heaLthy to have strong negative feeLings as weLL as strong Positive feeLings about PeoPLe in your Life.